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Losing the spark in a long-term relationship is often inevitable, just like realizing that Justin Bieber is actually making amazing music right now. The longer you're with someone, the more likely you are to transition from "passionate" love into "compassionate" love, Gary BrownPh. Passionate love is more about sexual arousal, while compassionate love is what helps you forge a deep emotional attachment with your partner. That's a nice way of saying as time goes on, you're probably less interested in break-the-bed sex than you are in curling up and watching Friends reruns together.
Even though that transition might be scary, it's not necessarily a bad thing! Even though your compassionate love will grow, the passionate love doesn't have to completely disappear. Here, 11 ways to infuse your relationship with some of that old excitement. This is a kind of foreplay that can help you stay present, which, as a bonus, can make you more likely to orgasm. The point is for one of you to be the "giver" while the other is the "receiver. After that, roam around with your hands, mouth, or whatever strikes your fancy.
The giver should work on incorporating all types of sensations, and the receiver should try to experience it with all five senses. Even better, decide that at least once a month you'll build on this type of exercise and have sex without using any of your usual positions. That'll force you to mix it up, and ideally discover some new winners along the way. Constructing a passion wheel is an excellent way to try new things, Ava Cadell, Ph.
The craft would probably get you banned from Pinterest, but it would still be worth it. Or you could try a very adult take on a high school favorite: share some wine and when you're done, let the bottle do the choosing for you.
Figure out what your partner wants more of and commit to doing it as long as it's something you're comfortable with, of coursesays Cadell. She suggests things like one of you promising the other 20 minutes of foreplay at least once a week. This can help make sure you're doing things both of you enjoy over time instead of letting them fall by the wayside.
These promises don't only have to be physical! You can definitely make them about emotional needs as well, like telling each other why you're grateful for the relationship at least once a week. That can help combat what Brown calls "creeping apathy," or taking each other for granted without even realizing it. It is, at the end of the day, a relationship killer," he says. Even if you spend hours on end with your S. Brown recommends sitting down together for at least 10 minutes a day just to see how the other person is doing.
It's simple, but this move sends the message that you're invested in keeping your bond strong even though life can get chaotic. The easiest way to do it is by asking each other questions that go there.
You can get inspiration from The Anda cool interactive documentary that records couples asking each other questions like, "Do you really think I'm the best for you right now? You already know the world won't end if you don't check your phone for an hour, so why not use that to your advantage?
Think of when you and your partner usually feel most distracted by technology, like in the morning during breakfast or at night before bed. Agree to ditch your phones for a portion of that time each day so technology doesn't get in the way of maximizing your affection. In addition to sexthat is.
As you move from constantly feeling head over heels back to regular life, you may have let some of those plans fade into the past. Whether it's meandering through your city to discover hidden gems or cooking elaborate meals together, reintroducing them can make you feel that heady, so-in-love-I-might-actually-die feeling all over again.
Don't just say you'll do them and forget—aim to do at least once per month so you have a steady stream of dates to look forward to. Especially if some of them are a mix of terrifying and exhilarating. And if the venture is something scary, like hitting up an insane roller coaster, skydiving, or even sampling an exotic cuisine, your body releases chemicals to bond you two together.
Combined with the rush of adrenaline you get during a thrill together—reaching the top of the roller coaster, successfully deploying your parachute, realizing that fried grasshoppers are quite delicious—your stomach might swoop in more ways than one.
Yes, it's a tad morbid, but there's a reason Brown recommends every single one of the couples he sees try this at least once! Thinking of it this way can snap you out of la-la land and help you focus on every single detail of the experience.
If you're bored with your recent bedroom antics but a little shy about how to broaden your horizons, an app like Kindu can help. Free on iOS and Google PlayKindu presents different sexual ideas to each of you privately on your phones. If you both like the idea, it'll show up as a match, but if only one of you does, the other person will never know. It's a safe way to explore what you might both be into if you're not ready to speak up just yet.
Putting in the effort to do more than a peck-and-go every morning can help, but you can up the ante by making out like teenagers and not having sex until hours later. Feel free to clue your partner in, otherwise they might just get confused or feel hurt by your refusal to have sex. That way, you can both build anticipation until you're ready to hit a home run, if you know what I mean.
SELF does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional. Check in with each other every day. Get to know your partner on a deeper level. Institute one phone-free hour every day. Revive the activities that helped you fall in love in the first place.
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